Blog
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The Quiet Taming of a Wild Thing
There is a difference between outer opposition and the enemy that lives quietly inside us. Outer resistance has a face. It has a voice. It announces itself. But the inner enemy is far more subtle. It is hidden. It arrives early. And it often disguises itself as love, protection, or what is considered “appropriate.” For
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Standing on the Edge of Who I’ve Always Been
There comes a moment in some lives when a role quietly dissolves, and the silence it leaves behind is louder than any noise that came before it. I have spent much of my life being strong for others. Not in a way that demanded recognition, but in a way that was simply assumed. From a very
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Standing at the Pivot Point
All of that old experience rose up in me again when I found myself needing to make a serious decision about my kidneys. I remember how quietly it began—not with panic, but with questions. Could I still be that strong person if I had this operation? And just as importantly, would I still be strong if
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When a Wider World Quietly Opened
I met an older Danish man named Bernhard, and without realizing it at first, my understanding of life quietly began to change. Bernhard lived in a way that immediately caught my attention. He traveled freely, worked with purpose, and expressed his gifts without apology or spectacle. What struck me most was not what he did, but
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The One Who Holds It Together
As I was recovering and facing the uncertainty of my own health, a deeper fear surfaced—one that went far beyond the surgery itself. What if I couldn’t do the work I had always done? What if I lost my job, my livelihood, the profession I loved? Nursing wasn’t just something I did; it was part
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When the Body Speaks Louder Than the Mind
There are moments in life when everything feels as if it is quietly unraveling at once. Not in a dramatic explosion, but in a slow, unmistakable pull—like threads loosening, one by one, until you can no longer pretend the fabric is still whole. This was one of those moments for me. As my brother’s situation
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Learning to Care for Others While Listening to My Own Heart
I began my working life in a place that taught me more about humanity than any classroom ever could. My first job as a licensed practical nurse was in a newly built wing of the extended care unit at Lions Gate Hospital. I was young, eager, and deeply committed to doing my job well. Caring
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Healing Doesn’t Always Feel Like Progress
Healing is often described as a forward movement. We imagine improvement, clarity, relief, or feeling better than we did before. And sometimes healing does feel that way. But there are many moments when healing doesn’t feel like progress at all. In fact, it can feel like the opposite. It can feel slow. It can feel confusing. It
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The Soft Work of Letting Things Settle
There is a kind of work that doesn’t look like work at all. It doesn’t come with effort, discipline, or pushing through. It doesn’t announce progress or offer quick results. And because of that, it’s often overlooked. Yet this quiet work is essential to healing. I call it the soft work of letting things settle. After we’ve felt
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Why Avoiding Pain Often Makes It Louder
Most of us don’t avoid pain because we’re unwilling to heal. We avoid pain because we’re trying to survive. From an early age, we learn ways to cope—ways to move forward, stay functional, and protect ourselves from being overwhelmed. Avoidance often begins as intelligence. It helps us get through moments when we don’t yet have the capacity