Blog
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Learning to Care for Others While Listening to My Own Heart
I began my working life in a place that taught me more about humanity than any classroom ever could. My first job as a licensed practical nurse was in a newly built wing of the extended care unit at Lions Gate Hospital. I was young, eager, and deeply committed to doing my job well. Caring
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Healing Doesn’t Always Feel Like Progress
Healing is often described as a forward movement. We imagine improvement, clarity, relief, or feeling better than we did before. And sometimes healing does feel that way. But there are many moments when healing doesn’t feel like progress at all. In fact, it can feel like the opposite. It can feel slow. It can feel confusing. It
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The Soft Work of Letting Things Settle
There is a kind of work that doesn’t look like work at all. It doesn’t come with effort, discipline, or pushing through. It doesn’t announce progress or offer quick results. And because of that, it’s often overlooked. Yet this quiet work is essential to healing. I call it the soft work of letting things settle. After we’ve felt
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Why Avoiding Pain Often Makes It Louder
Most of us don’t avoid pain because we’re unwilling to heal. We avoid pain because we’re trying to survive. From an early age, we learn ways to cope—ways to move forward, stay functional, and protect ourselves from being overwhelmed. Avoidance often begins as intelligence. It helps us get through moments when we don’t yet have the capacity
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What the Body Remembers That the Mind Tries to Forget
There are things the mind learns to move past. We tell ourselves we’re fine. We explain what happened. We create stories that help us function, cope, and keep going. The mind is very good at organizing experience in a way that allows life to continue. The body works differently. The body remembers what the mind
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When Healing Feels Uncomfortable Before It Feels Better
Healing is often imagined as relief. People expect it to feel lighter, calmer, or immediately reassuring. And sometimes it does. But more often than not, healing begins with discomfort. Not because something is going wrong—but because something honest is finally being felt. When healing feels uncomfortable before it feels better, many people assume they’ve taken a wrong
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Listening Beyond Words
There is a kind of listening that happens before anything is said. It doesn’t rely on language, explanations, or stories. It happens through presence, tone, pacing, and the subtle signals the body gives when it feels safe—or when it doesn’t. This kind of listening often goes unnoticed, yet it shapes our interactions more than words ever
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Why Being Present Is Sometimes the Bravest Choice
Being present sounds simple. We hear it often—stay present, be here now, don’t get lost in the past or future. But when we’re honest, presence can be one of the hardest choices to make. Not because we don’t understand it, but because being present asks us to feel what we’ve been trying to manage, avoid, or
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Learning to Sit with What Is
There comes a point when doing more doesn’t help. We’ve tried to think our way through something, talk it out, analyze it, or push past it. We’ve gathered insight and advice, and still, something remains unresolved. It’s in these moments that life quietly invites us to do something different. To sit. Learning to sit with what is doesn’t
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What Changes When We Stop Rushing Ourselves
Rushing has become so normal that many of us don’t even notice it anymore. We rush through conversations. We rush through decisions. We rush through emotions, trying to get to the part where things feel resolved or easier. Even when we slow down physically, the mind often keeps running, urging us toward the next thing, the